IPA: /ɜːrˈbæn.ɪ.ti/
KK: /ɜrˈbænɪti/
The quality of being refined, elegant, and courteous in behavior and manners.
Her urbanity made her a favorite among the guests at the formal dinner.
Urbanity is formed from "urbanus" (meaning of the city) and the suffix "-ity" (meaning the state or quality of). The word refers to the quality of being sophisticated or polished, characteristic of city life.
Think of 'urban' which relates to the city, and '-ity' which indicates a state or quality. This helps you remember that 'urbanity' means the quality of being refined or cultured, as found in city life.